Single -vs- not Single

All kinds of things swirling through this crazy, little mind of mind lately.

But right now, I will just chat on one.

Single vs not single. Let me define what I mean by single and not single first. When I refer to single, I mean, not attached, maybe just dating. When I say not single, I mean married or living with someone.

Let's start with a story, shall we?

Back when I was in CA, there were a few times that there were people/kids living with us. ("us" being my ex-husband and I) Most of the time, they were kids, ages 20+. It was always very interesting to me how we hardly ever saw them. They would leave early, be gone most the day and night and then appear some time late at night. On weekends, we hardly ever heard much from them. Then when they were home, I would hear them on the phone til all hours or they were up doing this or that.

I remember thinking to myself, "WOW! They are hardly ever home. And when they are home, they are engaged in something. Do they ever sleep? That is crazy! How can they function? What do they do all day?" I even went so far as thinking sometimes, "They have no peace, always running."

Life has a strange sense of humor! In this current life, I find myself living a very similar life. I find that I hardly sleep (most of my blogs are written between the hours of 1am- 3am), When I do sleep, it is til about 9a (when most people are at work or at school), and I am hardly ever home.

I got to thinking. What is the deal? How is it that life changes so drastically from being single to not single?

So, I started evaluating the situation.

Here are some thoughts:
When you are "not single", there is a routine. There are two lives that are intertwined and I think it helps establish a "pace". It is comfortable to be home. To just be. And for the most part, there is an established life. There is a comfort to it all. You don't feel you need to be on your phone or computer communicating with others because the one you want to communicate with lives with you. It is not a matter of "if" you are going to see them or what plans you are going to make, it is "when" they will be home or what you are going to do.

Not to say that there is no comfort or established life in the single life, it is just different. It seems there is a different kind of freedom, per sei. I think when you are single, there is always something to do. There is a certain unbridled freedom of coming and going, keeping up with the events of the area, doing dinner here or there, etc. It seems that a lot of your life is constantly on the move.

Of course, there is access. I know there are times that I myself can and should spend more time just being, but I guess I just feel like I would rather be doing this or that.

And it really has nothing to do with "not having peace" as I used to think before, I think it is just part of the single terrain. I guess once I settle down with someone again, my life may move back to the slower pace??

Eh....just some random thoughts today!

Speaking of random...
Here is a pic of my Bro, Nate, my sis-in-law, Corrie and niece Abby. I think it is so funny because it is so random. I was like, "let me get a picture of the happy family!" Corrie and Abby put on their biggest smiley face and Nate, being Nate puts his arm around Corrie all awkward and throws on his face....LOL! SUCH a dork! But I LOVE THEM!!!